Monday, March 12, 2018

Fulfilled by Motherhood?

Maybe it's the gloomy winter weather.

Maybe it's because I just got over the influenza after a week down.

Maybe it's because my 2 year old just got over influenza symptoms that lasted almost 3 weeks.

Maybe it's because what I've been reading just doesn't match Scripture.

But, man I am exhausted by many of the articles I have read about motherhood recently.

I just finished reading one about how a mom regretted yelling at her kids after a bad day of nothing going her way. Yes, I have been there. No, I do not think it was right. 

At the end of the article, it wraps up with a sentiment of knowing that motherhood is rough, and she's  thankful there's a tomorrow, and that motherhood is a beautiful thing. But, really, where is the Gospel in that? Where is the admittance that it's wrong to react this way and then follow through on repentance because we can in Christ? I am not trying to shame this lady because I don't know if she is a believer, but I think to myself that it seems so hopeless to just call something that is hard to do a beautiful thing and hope for the best for tomorrow.

As believers we can nod in agreement in the failures - and yes, it's nice to know you're not the only one. But, let's not stop there. God's grace is sufficient; His mercies are new every morning. We have hope because of the Gospel, so let's act on it. Turn away from what our sin nature draws us to, and strive to be Christ-like in our mothering by turning our kids to Him. We might have to humbly apologize for our behavior against them, but we get to show them that forgiveness is real in our home and real with God. Don't just embrace the messiness of life, but embrace the Giver of your life. He's right there along side you, and you are not doing this alone.

Thursday, March 08, 2018

Judging Others' Choices

Since stepping into a parent role ten years ago, I feel like I've been in a losing snowball fight. So many issues get thrown at you from instant your baby is placed in your arms.
  • Formula or breast milk? Bottles or nursing? 
  • Immunizations-yay or nay? 
  • Cloth or disposable? 
  • Pacifier? 
  • Sleeping on back or belly? 
  • Potty training from newborn days or waiting a couple years? 
  • Co-sleeping or crib? 
  • Cry it out or rock them? 
  • Baby-wearing or just carrying when necessary? 
  • Make your own baby food or buy a jar/plastic container? 
  • Home-school education or church-sponsored school education or private school education or public school education?

So.many.choices. And they never stop being lobbed at us.

The thing is that none of those choices are sinful based on what the Bible says. We cannot find Scripture to cover any of these exact points. But we make a choice based on what is best for our family, and suddenly anyone who does not follow our path is wrong. Why is that? Why do we continuously try to persuade others to do what we do? Is it because we are looking for affirmation? Is it because we feel so strongly about our decisions that we want to sway those who are searching to come to our side?  Why do we feel so strongly - pride? Are we placing too much trust in our choices when it should be placed in God?

If we are not choosing between wrong and right, then let us give grace to those who choose differently. The thing is that your choice may be a moral choice to you, but that does not mean it is a moral choice to others. This is where Christian liberty jumps in, and so we choose to not sin against our consciences. Rest in this knowledge that God is not granting you extra grace for your choice in this realm or that you are locked into one of these choices and cannot change your mind later-that is liberty. When making these type of decisions, be a good steward of the children and goods that God has lent to you, but remember that ultimately they are His. 

Psalm 24:1 The earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein,

Friday, February 23, 2018

One more time around

There are so many thoughts swirling in my head recently, so I thought, maybe I should jot some of them down - like start a blog. Then I remembered: I already have one.

Back before Facebook was a thing, many friendships were started or strengthened through the blossoming blogging world, and then FB killed it. Not really, because there are still numerous blogs with perfect pictures ready to be shared on Pinterest so that we can attempt to attain the perfect diet, home, children, crafts, and you fill in the blank with what you want. But, then we went from sharing our lives in paragraphs on our little family blogs to 1-2 sentences to a quote or phrase from a good article with a link to a picture of offspring with a catchy caption.  Occasionally there was a pic announcing big news, and you start checking comments, likes, and now other emotions.

And now, I want to share a little more again. When this was first started we had no kids, and now we have five. There was a little more down time to share thoughts and ideas over ten years ago, but now that our youngest is two, I feel like survival mode has been shifted in the off position more often than the thriving mode. Even if no one reads these thoughts, it will be nice to get them out of my head into an organized way and maybe someday, I'll come back and reflect on them again.

Wednesday, September 05, 2012

First Day of Pre-K 2012

 Here's a couple pictures for the family to see what's going in our lives.
Maleia's first day of school.  She's attending our local public school for PreK.  It's 2 days a week - Mondays & Wednesdays.  She did great with the drop off & had a wonderful day learning the rules! :)
 Happy & Excited Girl!


 Showing off the backpack

 Maleia's Pose

2 kids watching the picture taking - love squinty eyes smiles!

By her cubby - "OK, Mom, that's enough pictures, there's a lot of people here!"
 

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

I Will Get Back Into This . . .

It's just nice to be able to "talk" in adult language, so I will try to keep this blog going.  Since I've gotten back online, I've discovered pinterest.com, more money saving websites, and more Facebook updates from others.  I feel like I was living in a hole for 3 years and came back up to see so much more that I can use online!

With Christmas only 19 days away, I'm excited as I've used those internet tools to score some great deals & use craft ideas to make some cute gifts too.  The house is decked minus the tree, but whether we're ready or not, Christmas is coming!  Woo hoo!  Maleia is excited and Lincoln just rolls with the flow and Alayna has no clue what's going on, but still is adorable as always. :)

 Hoping Lincoln's sense of fashion improves over time

Maleia with her friends for her 4th Birthday - Tangled Theme!

Smiling Happy Alayna - 8 months!

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Finally . . . Here We Go!

Ok, so after 3 1/2 years of dial-up like internet access or access through just Geoff's smartphone, we hooked up with high speed internet! Add a cheap wireless router & we're doing great. Except for one thing. A home computer. Ours died shortly before Alayna was born in March. So, we'd use Geoff's work computer if he brought it home. But, this week that changed, here I am in my kitchen on my home computer with wireless access. I feel so up. to. date! :)
So, pics & updates will be a regular thing.
Family around the country rejoices!

Friday, May 13, 2011

It's Been Awhile

So, it's been almost a year since my last post. Since then, we've remodeled most of our home,
gotten pregnant, moved & had a baby. Here are some pics for the family - finally. :) Home pics should come soon!Alayna Caye Smith born on March 16th

First Bath-not too happy about it :)
On the way home from the hospital

Minutes after being born - we were shocked because we'd only been at the hospital for 20-25 minutes, and here she was!

Maleia's favorite thing to do - hold her little sister
Lincoln sporting his sister's Strawberry Shortcake glasses

Miss Sweet Alayna

The best we can do in getting the 3 kids in 1 picture

Maleia's Grand Prix Car for Kids4Truth. She wanted a car that was purple and had butterflies and flowers on it - so dad made a VW Van. It got 7th place overall in speed!